I have discovered that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to a single partner all year round. I also found out on the other hand that, cheating isn’t always a product of not loving your partner.
Truth is told, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with a totally different person.
Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not hearts.
It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self-discipline. I say this because there always comes a time when you’ll see someone more beautiful or handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than your current partner.
When you find yourself in situations like these it is most likely that love will not help you. What will help you though is self-control, emotional intelligence. These two can come to your rescue and but most importantly, commitment will keep you going.
With these characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you’re committed to will definitely come first in your life.
Come to think of it; you think happily married people don’t see nicer looking people than the ones they married? You think they don’t feel funny sometimes? You think they don’t develop feelings and connection towards other people? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings or lust or infatuation is the greatest arsenal that destroys that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet. We are fond of loving when love is there but the fire in first love can last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship.
After then, you’ll realize that the feelings have dropped; it’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it’s never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence.
In the long run, for marriages; it’s not just love that keeps them together forever, it’s determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only strong and committed people can do that.
That’s why we must find that one person and commit to that individual. Discipline yourself strap your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work; it’s like building a career or pursuing a dream.
It’s always tough, at a point it will be bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self-disciplined. Take time to read, understand and share with the young adults, married and unmarried couples.